The beauty of friendship.

I've always thought that friendship is something mutual. Maybe not as it was when you were 10 years old and you asked someone if they wanted to be your friend. But you know, you find out that you have similar intrests and such. I'm a firm believer that you have the right to choose who is your friend and who isn't. I have found out though, that not everyone feels the way I do.

I know, odd isn't it? That came as a surprise for me as well.

I have had those kind of friends that only consider you as a friend, a very good friend I might add, but only when they need something from you. Money, a ride somewhere. Well you get the point. And when you tell them you can't, or don't want to, some of them gets really mad. Now, I don't thikn that arguments and fights belongs in a friendship, it kind of takes the whole purpose of friendship away from it all. Atleast that's my opinion. If you have friends it's because they make you fell good and comfortable, and because you have fun together. Not so you can have random fights with a person because you don't think the same.

Friendship is kind of overrated anyway. I kind of like beeing alone by myself, it doesnt bother me one bit. Now, this doesnt nessesarily means that I'm not social, it just means that I want to be social on my own terms. I dont want friends that cant take a no, or that call me up and want me to do something and get all mad if I say no. I tend to not answer my phone when people like that call. Which makes them send angry text messages to me instead.

Is it really that hard for some people to understand that if someone don't answer their phone they either don't want to talk with you, or they are busy at the moment and will call you back when they are less busy? I have had "friends" that when I don't answer the phone they keep ringing every 30 sec, and just wont give up. Especially these friends that only call when they want something from you. Some of them even went as far as to come to my home and bother me, even though I think it's pretty clear that I'm "busy" when I don't answer the phone.

If I do answer after awhile when they wont stop calling, I usually get a conversation like this.

Me: Yeah hello?
"Friend": Why the hell don't you answer your phone!!??
Me: Umm, because I've been busy?
"Friend": It's an emergency! I really need your help!
Me: Let me guess...you need a ride somewhere?
"Friend": YES! I need to buy nails!!
Me: You've called me nonstop for 2 hours straight because you need to buy nails?
"Friend": YES! I need you to drive me to the store!
Me: It would take you 20 minutes to walk to the store, 5 minutes with the city bus.
"Friend": So? Will you drive me?
Me: No.
"Friend": What!?
Me: No, I can't I have plans.
"Friend": But after, when you're done?
Me: It all depends on when I'm done with what I'm doing. I really dont know.
"Friend": But I need to know NOW!
Me: Ok, then I'm sorry. I cant drive you. I'm not going to promise I will if I dont know if I can.
"Friend": I thought we were friends...I hate you.

Click...

See what I mean? Why would anyone want to have so called friends that acts like that? I have one specific friend like that, every single time he calls I know he needs a ride somewhere. So, if I already know I'm not going to drive him anywhere, it makes perfect sense to me to not answer my phone when he calls. That way I can atleast avoid the totally unnessesary conversation above. Besides, if he had used his own feets instead of terrorizing my phone for 2 hours, he would have had his damn nails long before I even answered the phone and told him no in the first place.

I'm not your private cab driver, and I'm not going to drop everything I got on my hands to come and drive you to buy nails. Stop beeing so damn lazy and get something done yourself for once.